Battling Depression with Grace

Battling Depression with Grace

Depression is a very real reality for so many people in our country today as we process the changes in the world around us. For women, who are often times expected to be unwavering, raise children, work a job, and embrace femininity, these demands in a tumultuous world can be a lot.

I know for me, these demands have been too much at times. Depression is real disorder than can affect anyone; it’s not something to be ashamed of, but rather, to embrace as you work through it to uncover your brighter self. 

It’s important to remember that the highs come with the lows when it comes to depression. Be gentle on yourself, for you are not fighting this battle alone. Millions of other people in the country will wake up today to fight the same fight – there is nothing wrong with you. Start practicing positive self-talk so you can comfort yourself when you need it the most.

Here are other things I keep in mind when I am battling depression:

  1. Take Time to Feel the Pain: We’ve been taught by society that we need to rush our pain and get to a point of functionality again. We feel like we don’t have time to embrace the pain – we need to come up with solutions immediately. The truth is that when I take time to feel the pain deep down, my body is able to heal itself in due time. It’s a natural process that you cannot rush.

  2. Healing Isn’t Easy; But It’s Worth It: Nothing worth having ever comes easy, and that’s true for your body and overall mental health today. Healing yourself through your depression is going to feel downright impossible at times. Just know that it’s hard for everyone, and if you stick with it regardless, you will reap the benefits down the line. Your body wants to heal itself.

  3. Breakdowns Come with Breakthroughs: Instead of seeing depressive breakdowns as something to be embarrassed by, start seeing them as moments of breakthroughs that stand to change your life. As the saying goes, “It’s always darkest before the dawn.”

  4. Speak What’s On Your Mind: Much like we sweat when we workout, we need to speak what’s on our mind while battling depression. It’s not something you need to keep to yourself – the more you share it with people around you, the stronger you will be at beating it. When we make something a “secret,” we give so much more power to it.

  5. The Brightest Lights Only Shine Through the Darkness: In order for a light to seem as bright as possible, the surrounding environment needs to be dark. That’s why the moon looks so bright in our sky. Tell yourself that the next time you are feeling swallowed by your depression. You are a bright light and you are important.

If you need someone to talk to while battling depression, know that I am here. I understand how alienating it can feel, which is why I want you to know that you are NOT alone. We are all in this together.